Never have I ever felt more lost and confused as I did during the 8 months of our engagement.
And to be honest, it was kind of my fault.
I was so busy planning a wedding that I unintentionally drifted away from friends. Perhaps subconsciously I avoided interactions to protect myself from unwanted opinions from acquaintances about my wedding. Or perhaps I was in a gloomy mindset of, “They’re probably too busy to hang out with me” or “They wont care about my stress.”
Whatever the reason, I spent most of my time with family who helped with checklists, deadlines, color swatches, invitations, etc.
While I was thrilled to have this kind of support and all the planning was going well, I was still clueless about how to handle the emotional aspect of getting married. I had little to no newly-married friends I could ask, “Are you feeling how I’m feeling?”
So I secretly begged for the comfort of a fellow bride, a bridesmaid, a friend… anyone around my age who identifies as a female who could hold my hand through some tough conversations about preparing for marriage. Not the wedding. And while I had all the support and love in the world as far as the wedding planning goes, I still felt alone at times.
“Congratulations!! What style wedding gown are you looking for?”
“Um… I don’t really know.” I said to the stylist, who was already listing a million different types of wedding dresses: Simple dresses, ivory dresses, lace dresses, tulle dresses, blush dresses, long dresses, short dress….
I quickly felt overwhelmed and totally lost standing in the middle of a bridal gown store.
Brides – let’s face it: whether or not you know what you are looking for, wedding dress shopping can be confusing, overwhelming, and even discouraging at times.
And sometimes it isn’t until you find “the one” when you feel as though all the chaos was worth it.
Have no fear. Here are some tips for wedding gown shopping:
“Oh, you’re getting married at Disney? Isn’t that…. childish?”
Dear Disney Brides,
Your wedding is not childish.
Your love of Disney is not childish.
YOU, my friend, are awesome. And definitely not alone in this situation.
Unfortunately, you may hear criticisms from family members, friends, and even complete strangers regarding your Disney Wedding. (Side note: they are probably poor unfortunate souls who have never experienced the delight of a Dole Whip or Mickey bar).
What many people fail to realize is that Disney Weddings are beautiful because they are unique.
And destination weddings can be outrageously expensive (I’m looking at you, Disney’s Fairy Tale Weddings…)
I do applaud Disney for having plenty of less expensive alternatives/enhancements with different venue, food, and package options.
So before you say “we can’t afford this…” to your dream Disney wedding – let’s do some research!
Here are 7 ways to cut down the cost of a Disney Wedding:
1) Make a list of “must haves” or a wish list:
Making a list of “must haves” will help you sort out which elements of the wedding are the most important to you – be it decor, photos, attire, etc. If you’re like me (and the majority of people in this world…), you simply can’t afford to have everything, so decide on the things that will make your day special and beautiful to YOU.
Remember that as long as you have your spouse, the other “stuff” doesn’t matter. It’s just stuff – and sometimes, it’s expensive.
8 months later, I was road tripping to Walt Disney World with a wedding gown in the backseat…
Never in my wildest dreams did I think I’d have a big Disney wedding, or that the people I cherish most would be together at my favorite place celebrating the happiest day of my life.
But I’m so thankful it happened.
Wes and I got engaged on August 23, 2014, and after weeks of searching for “a perfect place” to get married at home (in Nashville), we had a moment of insanity/inspiration and decided to have a destination wedding – at Walt Disney World.
I’ve been a lover of all things Disney for as long as I can remember. Walt Disney World has always been a special place to me, as I grew up vacationing there with my parents, siblings, grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles, and closest friends.
While many children outgrow magic and fairytales, my love for Disney deepened with each passing year. I eventually started performing at Walt Disney World, and it didn’t take long for me to experience the joys of creating magical moments for others, as well as recognize Disney’s constant attention to detail and genuine care for guests.
I could finally put into words what I really wanted on our wedding day:for our family members and closest friends to feel that same joy, magic, care, and love.
AND SO, my very own Disney Bride diary of our wedding day begins…
No wedding is perfect. Not even a Disney Fairy Tale Wedding.
Because let’s be real, weddings are made up of people – who are imperfect.
We brides LOVE to visualize everything working out the way it SHOULD. I mean, we’ve written all the schedules, planned all the details… how could something POSSIBLY go wrong?
But a million things could go wrong: people waking up late, your dress bustle breaking, OR no matter how hard you try, someone asking, “Where am I supposed to be?” after you’ve given them the schedule… three times.
It’s frustrating for any bride to deal with complications – be it uncontrollable forces (such as the weather ) or controllable (who you picked as your bridal party). Either way, the goal for your wedding day is perfection, but for many brides, the outcome is “a functional, beautiful wedding day – with few imperfections here and there.”
THAT BEING SAID. Here are my 5 tips that could save your wedding day…